Maybe it's the change in weather as the Autumn leaves start to fall, but I'm in hiatus. I've been frantically busy for a month and now I'm feeling that energy hangover. From my aching joints, to my slow-moving limbs, I am tired. I feel distanced from the world at times like this. Cocooned in some … Continue reading Hiatus

Overcoming autism?

      I often read this narrative online, "So-and-so overcame their autism and succeeded at something."  It makes me feel uncomfortable. It makes me worry that one day someone might say, "Rhi overcame her autism to write", which would be to fundamentally misunderstand both me and my autism.  One of the positives of autism … Continue reading Overcoming autism?


Being an undiagnosed autistic has many challenges.  When you compare your reactions to things with other people's, you feel like you're getting it wrong. When other people take things in their stride, and your brain feels like it's expanding inside your skull to the point you can't think, then you feel like you're overreacting. And … Continue reading Gaslighting

I’m sorry…

Saying "I'm sorry" doesn't mean I don't still have to do the processing. I know you're sorry you're late. You've broken a small social contract, and sorry should be enough to mend it, but it's not the social contract that is troubling me. You're sorry you didn't let me know that plans had changed. You … Continue reading I’m sorry…