The ponderances of a Late-Diagnosed Autistic Woman

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Way back in 2015 I finally got to the end of my journey and got a diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder. With that grubby sheet of paper in hand, I’m journeying on.
 I’ve got something that I think everyone in this world wants in some way, an answer for why I feel different.
The price of that answer is that I’m never going to feel un-different. The best I can strive for is indifferent to the differences. And that is a worthy thing to have.

I’m still very much a work in progress. I have so much more to learn. I thought it might end at diagnosis, but now I find I’m a part of more. My diagnosis makes me normal. It makes me a part of something bigger. I want to share where I am, who I am, and why that’s important.
I look forward to reading your feedback. First rule of social processing disorders: You don’t talk about social processi… hang on, that’s not it at all! First rule is that you talk about it so that people understand that that’s what autism is! Second rule is that just because I do it differently, it doesn’t mean I’m antisocial, and it doesn’t mean I do it wrong either. 
Rhi 

 

16 thoughts on “The ponderances of a Late-Diagnosed Autistic Woman

  1. I’m not diagnosed, but I’ve been reading a lot lately. So many bells ringing about my life. Glad I’m not alone, but very hard knowing who to confide in after all these years of pretending and hiding.

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    1. My only advice is to take your time. It’s a big thing to come to terms with and there’s no hurry. You can tell as many people as you want, or no one. It’s all about what you need. Do what is best for you. Some people need full, official diagnosis and to tell everyone, other people are happy to self-diagnose and keep it to themselves. There’s no right or wrong.

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  2. “Indifferent to the differences” – particularly powerful thought! I love it 🙂

    As usual, I can relate (lol) 😉

    Looking so forward to hearing more, my pretty ❤

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  4. I’m 47 years old, and just recently realized I may be somewhat severely autistic. I’ve been very much a loner my entire life and in adulthood, have only 3 close friends, 2 of whom I’ve allowed to drift away. I’m a compulsive collector, have diagnosed general and social anxiety disorders, have trouble with anything out of the ordinary or out of my comfort zone, and I’ve never been able to make eye contact with other people without consciously doing so.

    I’ve relied on my mom to keep me safe and to supplement my income for several years, because I was never able to feel comfortable enough in the outside world to work full-time. She passed away in 2014, and now, as I look around I realize just how cut off I am, and always have been, from the normal world. I’m realizing that I may need some real help.

    I found your blog through Facebook, searching for adult diagnosed autism, and several of your posts have been very helpful. I’m starting the process of getting a diagnosis, but being the person I am, even accomplishing that, is difficult. Until I can get an official diagnosis, I’d like to join some groups, either online or in person, and am hoping someone reading this could point me in the right direction. I feel that if I can connect with others like me, I might be able to dig myself out of the hole I’m slipping into.

    Thanks for creating your blog, and for any help you can offer!

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    1. Thank you for so many kind words! Diagnosis is such a difficult journey. I hope it goes smoothly for you.

      I’m hoping that someone with more knowledge than me might have some ideas about groups etc. and comment.

      There are lots of groups online but I don’t know which are best. Some can take the wrong tone with autism and be unsupportive. I’m on twitter under handle @outfoxgloved, though I’m not the most prolific tweeter, there is a nice community who share information on there. Although Twitter isn’t for everyone (it can be very angry at times, which I find hard).

      Definitely worth asking the people who are diagnosing you if they know of any groups available to you as well.

      I really hope you find the support you need. It can be incredibly hard reaching out. It takes real bravery.

      All the best
      Rhi

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